"O L-RD, Who are my power and my strength and my refuge in the day of trouble, to You nations will come from the ends of the earth and say, 'Only lies have our fathers handed down to us, emptiness in which there is nothing of any avail! Can a man make gods for himself, and they are no gods? 'Therefore, behold I let them know; at this time I will let them know My power and My might, and they shall know that My Name is the L-RD".
Jeremiah 16:19-21
Learning How to Fall

By: Rabbi Lazer Brody

Although the evil inclination attempts to convince people otherwise, periodic falls are part of growth. More often than not, a fall indicates that a person is ascending. If one hasn’t climbed anywhere, there’s no where to fall.For your happiness and self-preservation, I want you to engrave the following rule of life on your heart and mind:

As we go higher up the spiritual ladder, our setbacks of today are actually higher than our successes of yesterday.

Let me explain: Suppose that two years ago, you never even knew that talking about other people was a transgression. You learned the laws of wholesome speech and tried to implement them the best way you could. But today, you’re all upset with yourself because you inadvertently said things in a telephone conversation that you really regret. Even though you’ve taken a fall, you’re still miles ahead of where you were two years ago.

Plug in your actual fall into the above example. Maybe you flubbed up in guarding your eyes when you were really doing well for a while. Maybe you broke your diet with an eating binge. But, whatever you’ve taken upon yourself to do or to improve on, there will be falls from time to time.

So, since we’re human, and we all fall periodically, we must learn how to take a fall without getting hurt. The first thing a good gymnastics instructor teaches students is how to take a fall. A paratrooper spends days learning how to fall before he ever goes up in a plane. An experienced investments broker must know how to redirect investments when the stock, bond, or commodities markets fall. And, what holds true in the physical world holds true in the metaphysical world. If we must be prepared for a physical fall, we should certainly know how to handle an emotional or spiritual fall.

Basically, we’re all spiritual babies, especially when compared to our potential. Babies can’t possibly learn how to walk without falling occasionally. But, remembering the benefits of a fall is the best cushion for a fall.

Let’s examine the five good reasons why we sometimes fall or fail:

1. Only doers fall. If you don’t climb mountains, you don’t fall on the rocks, simple as that! People who drive sometimes get traffic tickets. People who don’t drive don’t ever make wrong turns. Wouldn’t it be ridiculous if a seventy year-old person bragged that he never committed a traffic violation if he never drove a car? The first consolation of a fall is the knowledge that you are a climber.

2. A fall teaches, and usually triggers a stronger second effort. Periodic falls safeguard us against complacency and arrogance. When we fall, we realize that we need to try harder the next time. Frequently, a second effort is far superior to even a best first effort. So, if you fall, don’t be disappointed; just “get back in the game”. If you pick yourself up, then your fall is only a temporary setback – don’t forget, as long as you’re alive, the game’s not over!

3. Failure brings us closer to God. If we were constantly   successful, we’d probably walk around with our noses in the air. Then, we’d be ugly, heaven forbid, because few things are uglier than arrogance. The Almighty wants His children close to him. After a setback, we pray a lot harder and earnestly seek Divine assistance for our next effort. If our lives were a perfect string of non-stop successes, we certainly wouldn’t pray from the bottom of our hearts.

4. Experience is life’s best teacher. The experience of a fall drives a lesson home immediately. Usually, we are slow in internalizing and implementing what we learn. When we fall, we have a golden opportunity to better ourselves immediately.

5. Small-scale failure assures large-scale success. Where would an actor prefer to forget a line, in rehearsal or on stage? A failure in rehearsal often assures a better performance on stage, since the actor makes a special effort to polish the rough edges of his or her performance. Sometimes, small failures are none other than preparations for large successes.

The fear of failure, like other fears, paralyzes people. Once we shed our fear of failure, we can “un-paralyze”, and initiate a new and better effort. My old high school coach taught me a cardinal principle in wrestling that equally applies to any situation in life: “You don’t lose the match by being thrown to the mat; the faster you’re back on your feet, the better your chances of winning!”

What Happens if I fall?

Go ahead and ask yourself, “What happens if I fall?” Don’t be afraid, be prepared! If you were to fall off a horse, your riding instructor would tell you three things:

a. Pick yourself up.

b. Dust yourself off.

c. Get back on the horse, and make a new start.

Who can improve on the above advice? So, you’ve fallen into a relapse of anger? Big deal! How many times have you succeeded in overcoming anger lately? No, you haven’t lost everything. Make a new start. New beginnings are spiritually and physically beneficial to your life. Try making the following declaration:

So what, I didn’t succeed? From this moment on, I hereby declare a new beginning! The past does not concern me! I’m about to make a fresh start doing the best I can.

Declaring a new beginning is synonymous to spiritual rebirth. The spirit influences the body. So, when the spirit declares a fresh start, the body becomes rejuvenated! By removing the focus from your setbacks and disappointments, you avoid sadness and depression. By declaring a new start, you destroy sadness and depression. The cheerfulness of a fresh spiritual start will keep your face, body, and complexion looking younger than any spa or cosmetics will. A fresh start is the secret of staying young.

Let’s take a day-to-day example. Suppose we’re caught off guard, and we lose our temper with someone close to us. Spiritually, we’ve been knocked down, but the game’s not over. If we suck in our pride, give our loved one a thoughtful little gift and a sincere apology, we turn our setback into a major victory. We rejuvenate ourselves, and our relationships with others. A fresh start keeps us happy, youthful, and optimistic. Have a great day and keep on climbing!

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